Question by ArmedSquirrel: Why do people assume things about those who do well in school?
Ok, I’ve done well in school for a while now, and I encounter these judgments that stem from stereotypes of “smart people”. Physically, I’m in shape and toned, but I’m no hulk either. Nonetheless, people assume that I’m a weakling who can’t do sports or fighting when I’ve done both and decently well for years now.

When most people have a bad day and get upset, people help them out in the normal way. When it happens to people like me, they think that I’m going to become one of those homeless and “insane geniuses”.

If people do something silly or have a brain fart, most of the times others just say “haha you’re crazy” or “wow that’s dumb man” in a joking manner. When I do it, people are saying I am the smart guy with no common sense for doing the exact same things.

Because I do well in school, I’m labeled with that annoying “book smart” label and always accused of lacking the acumen of real life when I’ve dealt with convicts, thieves, deceivers, death, addicts, and the like while most of them were playing Guitar Hero.

Then I’m assumed to be lacking in social skills by those who don’t know me well. In truth, I can be the life of the party and have no problems flirting with the ladies.

Finally, there are times when what I say misinterpreted as me looking down on them for not knowing something when I’m just trying to help. I swear by this when I say that I see people say condescending things to those same people. But, those people assume the other guy is trying to help him out.

I’m not perfect; I don’t claim to be. People who say these things could be mere acquaintances, or they could even be my own family and best friends. But WHY do I have to be treated in these negative ways just because I do well in school? I’m not some person locked up studying 24/7.

Also, how can I achieve the mindset needed to not let it bother me as I will probably be facing this intelligence discrimination for as long as I live.

Best answer:

Answer by Brenna M
Hint:
You’re surrounded by children.

and no, it wont get any better for a long, long time.

D:

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Question by Jack, Man Candy for Mephisto: I’ve been wanting to try this for a long time, but I’m worried; if I use my fists, will it hurt my partner?
See, I’ve been looking for a boxing sparring partner for a long time, and I thought I found the right guy, but there’s one problem—he wants to use these stupid foam bats, when I want to use bare-knuckle fists. What good is developing reflexes and improving motor coordination when you can’t even have a good contact point because some huge piece of foam keeps you three feet away from your opponent?

Sparring is a great way to get in shape, and I am disappointed he doesn’t want to use fists. He thinks it will hurt, and that it is stretching things too far. I told him that these things, done properly, should never hurt, and that I’d be sure to have plenty of vaseline on hand—you know, to put on in case knuckles get scraped in sparring, to dress any abrasions. He is a small guy, and he looked at me, standing there in my trunks, ready to go man-to-man, and I could see he was trembling. I’m sure this was his first time.

I told him to relax, that I’d be there behind him all the way, but he just was too nervous. I told him to turn around; you know, I wanted to massage his shoulders, to get him loosened up. He did, but I could tell he was still too tense. I decided that, if I was going to get down to business, I’d have to push things hard, apply a little force. “Come on!” I shouted, “You know you can take it like a man!”

He just was too nervous, too tense. Finally, I yelled a command at him: “Okay, dude! BEND OVER!” He looked back nervously over his shoulder. “You heard me!” I shouted. “BEND OVER AND PICK UP THE DAMN FOAM BATS!” He did, and we ended up doing his wuss sparring with the bats. It wasn’t much of a workout.

I have to know, why is he so nervous about using fists? Can it really hurt to sparr bare-knuckled? I mean, it would be just sissy-punches, nothing serious. Any advice?

Best answer:

Answer by Ask a Mexican ¡Hola Batty!
with fists is the only way you are ever going to get good… doesn’t he know this?

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Question by Jack, Man Candy for Mephisto: I’ve been wanting to try this for a long time, but I’m worried; if I use my fists, will it hurt my partner?
See, I’ve been looking for a boxing sparring partner for a long time, and I thought I found the right guy, but there’s one problem—he wants to use these stupid foam bats, when I want to use bare-knuckle fists. What good is developing reflexes and improving motor coordination when you can’t even have a good contact point because some huge piece of foam keeps you three feet away from your opponent?

Sparring is a great way to get in shape, and I am disappointed he doesn’t want to use fists. He thinks it will hurt, and that it is stretching things too far. I told him that these things, done properly, should never hurt, and that I’d be sure to have plenty of vaseline on hand—you know, to put on in case knuckles get scraped in sparring, to dress any abrasions. He is a small guy, and he looked at me, standing there in my trunks, ready to go man-to-man, and I could see he was trembling. I’m sure this was his first time.

I told him to relax, that I’d be there behind him all the way, but he just was too nervous. I told him to turn around; you know, I wanted to massage his shoulders, to get him loosened up. He did, but I could tell he was still too tense. I decided that, if I was going to get down to business, I’d have to push things hard, apply a little force. “Come on!” I shouted, “You know you can take it like a man!”

He just was too nervous, too tense. Finally, I yelled a command at him: “Okay, dude! BEND OVER!” He looked back nervously over his shoulder. “You heard me!” I shouted. “BEND OVER AND PICK UP THE DAMN FOAM BATS!” He did, and we ended up doing his wuss sparring with the bats. It wasn’t much of a workout.

I have to know, why is he so nervous about using fists? Can it really hurt to sparr bare-knuckled? I mean, it would be just sissy-punches, nothing serious. Any advice?

Best answer:

Answer by Larry E
Hell yes you can get hurt with bare knuckles. I’m no sissy but I wouldn’t do it either. Go to a gym where you can spar with someone with equal abilities.

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Question by Jack, Man Candy for Mephisto: I’ve been wanting to try this for a long time, but I’m worried; if I use my fists, will it hurt my partner?
See, I’ve been looking for a boxing sparring partner for a long time, and I thought I found the right guy, but there’s one problem—he wants to use these stupid foam bats, when I want to use bare-knuckle fists. What good is developing reflexes and improving motor coordination when you can’t even have a good contact point because some huge piece of foam keeps you three feet away from your opponent?

Sparring is a great way to get in shape, and I am disappointed he doesn’t want to use fists. He thinks it will hurt, and that it is stretching things too far. I told him that these things, done properly, should never hurt, and that I’d be sure to have plenty of vaseline on hand—you know, to put on in case knuckles get scraped in sparring, to dress any abrasions. He is a small guy, and he looked at me, standing there in my trunks, ready to go man-to-man, and I could see he was trembling. I’m sure this was his first time.

I told him to relax, that I’d be there behind him all the way, but he just was too nervous. I told him to turn around; you know, I wanted to massage his shoulders, to get him loosened up. He did, but I could tell he was still too tense. I decided that, if I was going to get down to business, I’d have to push things hard, apply a little force. “Come on!” I shouted, “You know you can take it like a man!”

He just was too nervous, too tense. Finally, I yelled a command at him: “Okay, dude! BEND OVER!” He looked back nervously over his shoulder. “You heard me!” I shouted. “BEND OVER AND PICK UP THE DAMN FOAM BATS!” He did, and we ended up doing his wuss sparring with the bats. It wasn’t much of a workout.

I have to know, why is he so nervous about using fists? Can it really hurt to sparr bare-knuckled? I mean, it would be just sissy-punches, nothing serious. Any advice?
Oh, I’ve been to fistingcentral, lol.

Best answer:

Answer by David
This made me laugh. Either I have a really dirty mind, or you did this on purpose, you bastard. :p
Anyways, back to the serious part, I’d do it with foam bats first, possibly bare-handed later. xD

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Question by Dolkite: How do I deal with a gender identity problem? I look very masculine yet I don’t like being seen that way.?
I have a major issue with my looks. I’m 6′3″, broad shouldered, around 235, and bald. Most people don’t understand why I hate this, and I rarely tell them the real reason.

I hate how I look because it’s entirely masculine. I hate that I’m taller than most people, I resent the fact that I started losing my hair at age 17, and that while I’m not in super shape, it’s not uncommon for someone (often just some panhandler buttering me up for money) to ask if I played football or call me “Big man”. In my darker times, I refer to myself as being “ugly” although I know it’s not true….I’m just the opposite of what I want to be.

I’m posting pics just to show the contrast between who I am and who I wish I could be.

http://s385.photobucket.com/albums/oo296/curseofdolkite/

My GI problem is not a sexual issue…I don’t desire to have female organs and I’m heterosexual. I admit that in a perfect world, I’d rather be female. However, that’s obviously not going to happen, so I’m willing (like it matters) to compromise if I could just not be seen as an overtly masculine guy, I’m just frustrated because I know there is no way I’m ever going to be seen as anything but a masculine guy, the opposite of what I want. I could even deal with being male if I wasn’t so overtly masculine and the (few) women I attracted weren’t looking for the sort of big, strong, protective “manly man” type. I know they didn’t realize how their comments affected me, but hearing a female say things like “I love how small I feel next to you” were heartbreaking for me because I took it the way a female would….most females don’t want to be seen as big and burly.

I’m really at a loss here. I mean, I care about how I look and yet I’m unmotivated even to get in shape and do the best I can with what I’ve been given because I don’t want to seem like I actively am striving to fulfill that big tough bald bouncer type image that’s so popular with men now.

Anyway, I don’t know if this answer is going to inspire a lot of rude comments or if anyone will even have anything meaningful to say beyond token responses like “Get therapy” or “Stop caring what you look like”.

Also, PLEASE read my question. Some people click on the link to my pic and then write “What’s the big deal, you’re not ugly” or “Lots of girls dig big guys”. My question is not “Am I good looking?”, it’s how do I cope with having a body that’s the exact opposite of what I wish I could be.

Best answer:

Answer by atom
seriously man..given a chance i would exchange my body wid yours..cheer up..accept da way u are..love urself..everything will become fine den

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Question by Dolkite: How do I deal with a gender identity problem? I look very masculine yet I don’t like being seen that way? ?
I have a major issue with my looks. I’m 6′3″, broad shouldered, around 235, and bald. Most people don’t understand why I hate this, and I rarely tell them the real reason.

I hate how I look because it’s entirely masculine. I hate that I’m taller than most people, I resent the fact that I started losing my hair at age 17, and that while I’m not in super shape, it’s not uncommon for someone (often just some panhandler buttering me up for money) to ask if I played football or call me “Big man”. In my darker times, I refer to myself as being “ugly” although I know it’s not true….I’m just the opposite of what I want to be.

I’m posting pics just to show the contrast between who I am and who I wish I could be.

http://s385.photobucket.com/albums/oo296/curseofdolkite/

My GI problem is not a sexual issue…I don’t desire to have female organs and I’m heterosexual. I admit that in a perfect world, I’d rather be female. However, that’s obviously not going to happen, so I’m willing (like it matters) to compromise if I could just not be seen as an overtly masculine guy, I’m just frustrated because I know there is no way I’m ever going to be seen as anything but a masculine guy, the opposite of what I want. I could even deal with being male if I wasn’t so overtly masculine and the (few) women I attracted weren’t looking for the sort of big, strong, protective “manly man” type. I know they didn’t realize how their comments affected me, but hearing a female say things like “I love how small I feel next to you” were heartbreaking for me because I took it the way a female would….most females don’t want to be seen as big and burly.

I tried to counteract this by dating girls who were taller or larger…the last two were 6′5″ and 6′2″ (around 250 lbs). This, however, backfired…the supertall one loved having someone who made her look smaller and could dominate her in bed; the big one loved that I could pick her up (with difficulty) and, worse, told me she was attracted to me partially because I reminded her of her father. Now ask me why I don’t go out on more dates…

I’m really at a loss here. I mean, I care about how I look and yet I’m unmotivated even to get in shape and do the best I can with what I’ve been given because I don’t want to seem like I actively am striving to fulfill that big tough bald bouncer type image that’s so popular with men now.

Anyway, I don’t know if this answer is going to inspire a lot of rude comments or if anyone will even have anything meaningful to say beyond token responses like “Get therapy” or “Stop caring what you look like”.

Also, PLEASE read my question. Some people click on the link to my pic and then write “What’s the big deal, you’re not ugly” or “Lots of girls dig big guys”. My question is not “Am I good looking?”, it’s how do I cope with having a body that’s the exact opposite of what I wish I could be.

Best answer:

Answer by Eiliat
Try therapy. It’s cliche, but I’m not a psychiatrist and I’m not trained to help you. A psychiatrist is or at the very least can refer you to someone who is.

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Question by Wdkg: Which names for my 2 main characters?
Main Girl age 14:

Personality – Witty, outgoing, sarcastic, people pleaser, impatient, trustworthy, loyal.

Appearance – Medium length, light brown, curly hair. Dark blue, deep eyes. Chubby cheeks, round face. About 5′3″, average weight.

Name options -

Charlie
Natalia
Kaile [Pronounced : Kail]
Elise

** Is Kaile too masculine? I looked up the meaning of Kale and it means “man”. Kaile is spelled differently, but pronounced the same.. what do you think?

Suggestions? [Has to be a name that's not overly common]

Main Boy age 15:

Personality – Confident, smart, sly, little bit cocky, loyal, smooth talker.

Appearance – Short, curly, chocolate brown hair. Bright green eyes. Fit / in shape with muscles, but not overly buff. About 5′11″. Average weight. Mature face.

Name options -

Emerson
Wynn
Caleb
Kale

Suggestions?

THANKS!

Best answer:

Answer by Michael D
I think that for the girl, her name should be Kaitlyn. I don’t know why. It just popped into my head when reading the description. And for the boy, I have no clue.

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Question by : Could I go far in Basketball?
Hey everyone. So I’m just a 14 year old kid, I’m 5′10 1/2 and 150 pounds. I’m pretty fast, and I can touch rim on some jumps. However, I feel like I am different from other kids, I love the game of basketball.. I always want to play more, when I come home from the gym after 4-5 hours of basketball every day, I still go outside and dribble and play more. Even now as I sit on the computer I want to have something to do with basketball, so I can get better in every way shape and form. I have a passion for this sport, I have played basketball seriously for only 1 YEAR, and I am already better than 95 % of kids my age. As I player I usually play with adults at the gym who all tell me “good job” “nice shot” or “good work man” and I’ve had a few come up to me and ask my age or say I could play college ball if I keep it up. I practice every day, I’m a great shooter, a good dribbler for my height, I can rebound, I hustle on every play, I can pass the ball, I love driving (however I need to work on driving with my left hand) and I’m good at faking out the opposing player. Could I go far in basketball? I spend a lot of time and I will most likely start practicing even more than I already do… could I play college? Thanks guys

Best answer:

Answer by Bryan M
haha yeah you could go far! just keep at it .. im 16 now and i wish i had the passion for basketball like i do now when i was a freshman just join the team and keep working hard practice everyday

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Question by : Seriously considering breaking up with girlfriend.?
LONG BUT PLEASE READ AND TRY TO HELP ME, ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED (I Love CAPS TOO)

Hello Yahoo answers, first let me start off with the fact that I usually don’t go on here much unless in a great deal of personal stress or need some serious advice, hell ANY advice would be appreciated. With that out of the way, let me begin. First off let me try not to ramble (Too late I know) and tell the story in the least amount of words. To sum it up, I never had a girlfriend, recently acquired one who is very smart and dare I say almost “As intelligent as a man”, but is in no way shape or form a man (I checked, thoroughly). Said girlfriend doesn’t seem to care about me all that much, or at least that’s the way I feel. It seems she keeps me around just for witty banter and a few laughs, she says she likes me but as we all know, people lie.

So now I’m sitting here having not having seen her for 3 days because she’s busy with family, which I was more or less ok with and granted her those days. I recently gave her my game collection and she’s been playing that, did I mention she BAILED on going somewhere with me today just to go to her cousins where the Xbox is? (HINT HINT), I mean Ninja Gaiden is a good game, but I feel used and alone, and angry, and most of all annoyed at the fact that she apparently doesn’t care about seeing me as much as I care about seeing her. Part of my frustration is bent towards family issues just for your information, so you don’t trail off thinking I’m some crazy son of a bitch boyfriend with need issues. But lets focus on the girl, what the hell is she doing? If any of you are confused on exactly what the hell is going on, I’ll add details to assist you. If you’ve read this far then I congratulate you on a job well done, no cookies this time though, just water.
Thanks for the advice Anna, I’ll admit it’s not something that I like hearing but than again the truth rarely is an easy pill to swallow.
Kate I’m not sorry if you were offended by my views towards women, but let me explain to all who might be mislead by what I really meant. I grew up in a place (Miami) where the girls (Compared to the majority of guys) are so stupid and easy that I never respected them. I love and respect women, the smart ones only. Now that I have found one and this is happening? Imagine my disappointment. So in a nutshell what I meant by that was that where I live it’s very common for girls to be stupid, oh so very stupid. So around here she would be considered as “Intelligent as a man”
So far I’m getting nothing but good advice, or even at the least some things to ponder about (Thanks ViviA). I’ll read some more of them over as they help me calm down and realize that closing in at not seeing your supposed girlfriend for 5 days isn’t such a bad thing, and yes I forgot to add the /sarcasm sign to that last remark, so there you go.

Best answer:

Answer by Anna L
What you should do is talk to her about it, and if it stays the same, i wouldn’t stay together….

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Question by Auntie Marie SueB: Would you feel baffled if this happened to you? And how would you respond back to the doctor?
I went in for my annual check-up today, and the 1st thing the doctor says when he walks in the door, is “Hey old lady.”–with the chart in his hand. I’m like excuse me? SO I asked, “What did you say?” He repeated himself. So I said back to him, “Hi old man.” Then the doctor explained that he had thought I was older than him that’s why he said that, glancing over my chart. {I really couldn’t believe my ears ….. really}.
Well, 1st of all, I have to say that I keep in shape, am not over weight whatsoever [on the thin side], have long hair, and not a line on my face. I”m not trying to boast but get flirtations from men of all ages. {I’m just saying, because even tho I’m polite, I’m not the flirtatious type, am happily married}. So between compliments etc. I already know that I do not look older than my time and even younger. SO WHY DID THAT D*MN “doctor” behave in an obnoxious inappropriate way like that to me? I don’t understand!!! I’ve never done anything to him! He’s short, bald w/glasses and always seems to mention that he’s “bald”
or “blind as a bat.” {WHY the heck is he announcing his inferiority complex to me regarding his eye sight and lack of hair?????} I’m just wanting to get done w/my check up, lol !! Sheeeeeesh!
Response to Bunny, WOW! That’s the worst thing I have EVER heard of any “doctor” saying to anyone. I feel so bad that that guy could speak like that to a patient! Wow, I can’t believe it ….. that’s awful.
Okay, this “doctor” has a H U G E turnover rate with nurses and receptionists and “partner doctors”. I’ve gone there for 4-5 yrs. now and 1-2x per yr. noticed every employee there is [or almost all] are new nurses and fronk desk personnel!! And the partner doctors are usually women. He probably has a giant problem with women, it looks like.
Heck it doesn’t bother me anymore, whatever. His loss coz I’m going to my husbands doctor now. The switch will be made ASAP. That other doctor is too far from my house anyway. TOODLES, LOL xD
I already am quite aware that I look much younger than him and am. I get compliments constantly, HOWEVER the point is, that this short lil’ baldy probably thinks everybody has something over him in the looks dept. because he’s so physically unattractive and has MAJOR women issues, so uses his position to insult others even when the insults aren’t true. Someday I will be much older and sure would not want to have a doctor saying that to me–esp. when I am. or for any woman to be treated like that.

I won’t complain abt him ,coz it won’t do any good. BUT I will leave a message for the receptionist on the msg machine and over the phone that I’ve switched doctors BECAUSE Dr. Kerner seems too old to be my GP any longer. I’ll explain to them, that it seems as if he’s had a stroke, has shakey hands when bringing in my chart and w/nerves and floppy slimy liver lips [to one side] as such I don’t have confidence in his judgment as a doctor any longer.
I’VE LEARNED THAT SOMETIMES IN LIFE IT DOESN’T PAY TO ‘ALWAYS’ BE TACTFUL.—YOU GOTTA GIVE ‘EM BACK THE SAME TYPE OF SLUG THEY GAVE YOU. SO THIS IS WHAT I WILL SAY TO THE RECEPTIONIST + LEAVE ON THEIR ANSWERING MACHINE:

“PLEASE TRANSFER MY FILES TO MY NEW DOCTOR, “DR. … ” I HAVE TO BE FRANK HERE … I FIND DR. KERNER TO BE UNPROFESSIONAL, RUDE AND ALSO PREFER A MUCH YOUNGER DOCTOR WHO IS MENTALLY FIT AND UP-TO-DATE IN THEIR PROFESSION FOR THE BENEFIT OF MY HEALTH. IN ADDITION, I FIND HIS OVERALL APPEARANCE REVOLTING, AND REQUIRE A DR. TO BE ATLEAST AVERAGE LOOKING–SUPER SHORT GUYS W/SHINEY BALD HEADS WEARING GLASSES TURNS MY STOMACH.

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Answer by handyman
That is a very rude thing to say to a woman of any age. My husband’s doctor calls him old man all the time, but that’s different. I would have been very insulted.

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